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Help! I'm a 24-year Old Mom, Can Anybody Hear ME?

Hello, mic-check? Is this thing on? I fall into to categories who need a lot of self-expression: I'm a woman and a writer. As a woman and a writer, I'm constantly looking for outlets to express my emotions. Painting helps, an occasional drink or two. Setting time aside to exercise or play soccer helps. The most important outlet for me is therapy for my depression and anxiety. This helps me cope with the realization that most people do not care what you and I go through as a mom in our twenties.

I've always been a social person. At this particular age in my life I still know and talk to lots of people outside of social media, people who are probably dealing with things in their own lives. Especially the kid-less friends of mine because they can go where they want, when they want. I sometimes miss those care-free days. You'll text friends while in crisis mode and they might hardly notice at all. Sometimes they won't respond! How is it possible to be so not relatable or understood in the era of the "girl squad" phenomenon? (Is a "girl squad" even a thing?) Personally I think it's saved for the Instagram group shots.

These are some of the things you may experience as a 24-year old mama misfit:

  1. You can could count on my hands the friends you have who have their own child or every single one of them lives in a different state or district.
  2. Playdates are the new happy hour when you're in your twenties with a kid-in-tow.
  3. You'll stop getting invited to things at least 75% of the time. People will assume you're busy or won't ask because they might not be thinking of you at all.
  4. Family will try to drive you crazy. Everybody wants to see your baby but few will come get them themselves.
  5. Personal dreams feel like they're harder to obtain and further away. You'll work all day, send some emails coordinating around food, sleep, and activities for baby and it'll be 6:30 before you know it.
  6. Your partner may think you're losing your mind sometimes. People forget that stress can literally kill someone! Being a mom is a job where there's no clocking on or off. Kids constantly need something and that is completely independent from your demands as an employee (especially if you work multiple jobs like me), a homemaker, and a wife. My nights out are once every two months or so and it takes strategic planning to get that time alone!
  7. Appointments and shopping are instantly a thing of the past. The last time I got my hair done at a salon was over a year ago! I have split ends, a piece that has completely broken off, and my hair is currently brittle from the summer heat. I better add some extra conditioner a couple times a week because $100+ at the salon is out of the question. I won't even start on my eyebrows that haven't been waxed in months.
  8. Date nights slow down and you opt for movie nights in. My partner and I love some movies ya'll but we've seen about 1,000 on demand flicks in the last 7 years. Vacations? Forget about it. Our honeymoon is the first vacation in three years we've been able to afford. 

The point of this isn't to rant because I could all day. I took on the task of being a stay-at-home mom but there are days I feel like I'm on a deserted island and everyone else is a ferry boat distance away. 

There are days like today where I force myself to do nothing besides keep Aria happy and do little tasks I've been putting off for months just to restore some sanity and happiness for the little things in life. 

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5-Minute Makeup: Full Lashes & Glossy Lip

Here's a quick go-to look for me. The focus of this look is the thick natural lashes and a glossy lip. This is a makeup staple and you can create it in 5-minutes or less with mostly drug-store makeup. Lately, I've been obsessed over the satin foundation finishes to look polished and hydrated. Satin finish foundations are WAY easier to maintain in the summer when you're sweating throughout the day. Stay away from matte finish foundations! All you need are these products or swap out my suggestion for what you do have at home.

1. Primer- I use a natural Vitamin C serum as my base. It was $10.00 at Safeway and it works better than expensive serums I've tried.

-Use it all over your face and neck, get your eyelids too.

2. Estee Lauder Double Wear Nude Cushion Stick in Bronze 5MW1.

-Apply to your whole face and blend use a round foundation brush or sponge.

3. Elf Cream Blush in Peach from Target. 

-Apply to the apples of your cheeks, this also doubles as a shadow so blend it on your eyelids too.

4. Contour shade, I use the Tarte's Tarteist Pro Glow To Go in Chisel.

-Use a contour brush to get define your cheekbone, you can also use it to contour the sides of your nose.

5. Highlighter of choice, I use Becca's Shimmering Skin Profector in Opal.

-Use an thin flat eyeshadow brush to get in the bottom of the inside crease of your eye. Use a fanned blending eyebrow brush to highlight the top of your cheeks, the top of your lip, and the tip of your nose.

6. Liquid Black Eyeliner- I use Lorea'l in Black, use whatever you have

7. Urban Decay Volumizing Mascara or your favorite Volumizing Mascara. 

-Be generous! Take your time and do at least three full coats and make sure you fan out the front eyelashes near the corners to make them look full and awake.

8. Clear eyebrow gel, I use Elf brand.

I like having thick full eyebrows so I love the little brush helps you sculpt the perfect brows.

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7. Mary Kay Lip nourishing plus Lip gloss in Pink Luster or your choice!

-Slip on one coat of a glossy pink lip gloss.